I was a chump as a college freshman. How? I spent my freshman year convinced that if I was just myself and was just a nice guy that girls would eventually learn to like me. All I wanted was a person to share myself with and I knew that i I just found a girl who wanted the same things we would fall in love and live happily ever after. You would think that after the first experience with unrequited love that I would have learned; but no, I went and opened myself up for someone to do it again. After the second girl I decided I didn’t want to be the nice guy anymore because as it turns out, nice guys do in fact finish last. That summer of 01 I decided that what I was going to do was think solely of myself with no regard for whomever my affection was aimed toward. I’m not going to go deep into the issue, I have a blog from 2004/2005 filled with posts on the subject that I’ll probably link to the future, but it just so happens that girls love assholes. In the end however you can’t stay an asshole. All girls want an asshole at first, but in reality they actually do want a nice guy in the end. … yup, you guessed it: Without this, I would not be the man I am today.
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Vanessa // July 14, 2008 at 5:44 pm |
Well, whatever happened to you of course changes your outlook. But you are not an asshole and I never percieved you that way. Maybe if anything you think that being an “asshole” to a girl is simply not wearing your heart on your sleeve. I think its default human nature to like a bit of a chase. We, by nature, enjoy flirting, enjoy the challenge. If we go in too deep it may be considered a turnoff, a sign of desparity. But if you give a cold shoulder, hold off committment, and perhaps cause jealously (all asshole-ish tendancies), then you automatically become a bigger trophy in the eye of your prey. You didn’t go in deep at first, if anything, I did. But, you were never an asshole. I don’t like assholes, and I happen to be a girl. (: